Family Matters #19: How to teach your child about responsibility

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By Lucia Ferrara

Healthy, strong relationships in families are the foundation to help kids to grow and learn, but great family relationships do not just happen. You must work at them.

According to The Keep Connected Institution, “These relationships build strong social and emotional strengths that kids use through their lives.”

We begin teaching our children responsibility at an incredibly young age. For example, when your child was maybe as young as one or two years old, you are teaching them to put their toys in the hamper. As your child grows, we take time to teach personal responsibility and acceptance for their actions, no matter how big or small they are.

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As a parent, we need to ask ourselves is, what is responsibility and how do we teach our children about it? Responsibility means you do things you are supposed to do and accept the outcomes of your actions.

For example, we want our kids to brush their teeth every day, maybe even twice a day. Instilling the brush-your-teeth ritual in your child’s daily routine builds responsibility as well as develops healthy habits.

Another example is when you go to recess or to a park, you are expected to play in such a way that you do not hurt anyone or yourself on accident, so you teach your child to be responsible and have fun in a safe manner.

Chores is one way to help your child learn responsibility. What type of chores are expected in your family? In my family, the kids each have a chore that needs to be done around the house.

For example, when all three were at home, my daughter was responsible for feeding the dog and cat every day. My oldest son was responsible taking out the trash when it got full, which for us was almost daily. My youngest son was responsible for unloading the dishwasher and putting dishes away after dinner.

These and other chores were rotated among them from time to time, so the way each child knew what the other had to do and it was a lesson to learn.

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We want our families to be responsible in all we do. Some lessons include teaching youth about common expectations, which include: Keeping one’s word, being accountable for ones’ behavior, being dependable, being a contributing member of one’s community, sports team, school, and society in general.

I personally believe that learning to be responsible is the key my children’s success in school and in the world. We need to encourage our youth to do their best, even if their best is not up to our expectations.

Allowing your children to earn a sense of pride and accomplishment in whatever they do helps build their confidence and grow into great responsibility.

I leave you with a few reflections to discuss with your family and friends.

  1. If your daily routine includes chores, make a chore chart in a designated place where everyone can see it.
  2. Discuss together how to structure and roles are a part of fulfilling responsibility. Setting boundaries, expectations and limits.
  3. Communicate unconditional love and support. This allows your children to make mistakes, take risks knowing that parents have their backs!

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[Lucia Ferrara is the Director of Hospitality at Precious Blood Renewal Center and the lead organizer here of Parent Cafes. Share your thoughts with Lucia or ask her questions by using the form below or sending an email to info@pbrenewalcenter.org. Read more about the Parent Café here.]

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